Why might some parents have problems playing with their children? Playing with children should not be so difficult. A parent and child are two connected living beings. An infant or child depends on parents for physical needs of food and shelter but also for important emotional needs.A child needs contact, which means connection in a kind and feeling way. Contact provides the underlying biological energy of love. The ability to give and receive love begins in infancy. Tender eye contact, gentle physical touch, protection from danger, kind feeding, a warm tone of voice, or simply being together in a friendly way can keep the connection flourishing. Good contact nurtures life.Enjoying your little ones helps their growth and development. Warm, relaxed contact is good for health and mental health. Contact is an energy connection that gives children and parents the feeling of really being together. It is deeper than play. It’s the foundation for every part of the relationship. It provides the genuine joy of life.Every living creature needs contact, but often it’s not possible. Sometimes parents can’t be atease or can’t be tender. A frustrated child may act out, such as being unhelpful or breaking rules. A child who is hurt may silently pull inside and be afraid of people. Another child may space out, be confused, or act like a clown. Others may act like premature grownups or tough guys.Emotional ArmoringIf a defense like this gets to be a pattern, a child will develop permanent emotional armor, which means stiff muscles or rigid attitudes. Stiff muscles help a little child brace against big disappointments, while rigid attitudes convince a child that sweetness in life is not necessary, possible or even desirable. Playing with children is valuable for both the children and the adults.